Welcome to Conversations with My Sisters! “Conversations with My Sisters” grew out of a series of discussions I began having with my sister and my sister girlfriends over 3 years ago. It just seemed like every time we talked whether on the phone or in person, the conversation would inevitably turn to the dilemmas of being single, successful, women of color. On the heels of such fiery and passionate conversations amongst my sisters, I decided to explore seriously and honestly the reason as to why it seems like so many educated, professional women of color (including ourselves) are single. These “kitchen table” conversations are the seeds of what has now become my dissertation project. Over the last year and a half, I have been chatting with women of all colors, hues, and backgrounds informally and formally about dating, love, and their experiences in romantic relationships. This blog is intended to be a continuation of these conversations–a place to share and discuss ideas, thoughts, and comments regarding the challenges, choices, and opportunities that educated, professional black and brown women face in their romantic relationships. As a woman of color pursuing her PhD and currently single, I am confident that I am in good company. So, to all my sisters out there who are scholars, intellectuals, educators, lawyers, teachers, artists, musicians, writers, poets, actors, doctors, activists, professors, scientists, etc… I invite you to join the conversation! Of course men, are always welcome too.


  1. Hi, my name is Brion, and truthfully I’m eavesdropping on your “girl talk.” I’m a white man from Kansas, lucky enough to have struck something up with the very greatest woman on earth — yes, she’s black, that’s why I’m here — and our relationship is starting to get serious. Race hasn’t been an issue for us at all — we are both part of what might be a small percentage of interracial couples who are “born this way” with interracial attraction. Really not looking for any advice or anything, but if something comes up about her that I don’t understand — and it will, she IS a woman first — so at some point I’ll probably ask your opinion.

    1. Hey Brion! Thanks for checking out my site. It’s nice to know that I have male readers on here:) Sounds like this is your first time in an interracial relationship? I’m glad to hear things are going well. I find it curious that you say “Race hasn’t been an issue for us at all”. I’m not sure I know what you mean by “we are both part of what might be a small percentage of interracial couples who are “born this way” with interracial attraction.” Like all couples you two will have to figure out the nuances of your relationship and how to navigate the cultural aspects too. If my blog can be helpful in that regard, great. The one thing I would say is that if something does come up that you don’t understand, its best to ask your partner. Not all women are the same. My opinion on something may be total different from your partner’s. Where race and culture are involved it can get tricky and sticky pretty quick if you don’t go straight to the source. That’s my two cents!

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